How to Reinvent Yourself in 2021
Have you ever wanted to reinvent yourself? Wake up in a new career, job or hobby?
A few months ago, one of my friends told me she thought I made reinventing myself look really easy.
Honestly, change is hard! Even good change, but since I’ve reinvented myself so many times, it has gotten easier over the years.
Here are my 5 tried and true steps to reinventing yourself:
- First you have to decide what it is you want your new and improved life to look like. Grab a notebook and write what you would do during your ideal day.
Can’t decide what you want? Envy is a good clue. Think of who you envy in your life. When does the little green eyed monster appear for you? Envy means that someone has something you want.
For example, over a decade ago, when I was a Case Manager for adults with mental illnesses, I envied my friend’s sister who was a makeup artist. So I became one…for a few years.
Shortly after that, when people told me they wished they had my job as a hoop dancer, I created tons of hoop dance resources including videos, training courses and more. At least until I quit and was onto the next thing, which for a time was pet sitting and corporate face painting (until the pandemic hit). Then I focused on writing books.
2. Create an alter ego. Sometimes the idea of a whole new “title” for yourself can be scary. That’s why I recommend creating an alter ego for yourself.
For example, When I was writing my Honest AF Animal Wisdom Book, I was worried that my love of curse words might make some people mad…and it caused me to hold back. Until I realized I wasn’t writing it for people who felt offended by my words. My alter ego was SUPER CONFIDENT, did not hold back, and she wasn’t shy about sharing her blazing effing throat chakra…which my ideal readers found super hilarious and inspiring.
3) Dip your toes in. Once you’ve decided what you want to try you, whether it’s a new side hustle (highly recommend James Altucher’s amazing book for this) or job or whatever, then slowly dip your toes in.
You don’t have to quit your job and give yourself 100% to your new thing. Maru Iabichela calls this “dating an idea”…meaning, you can just try it out for a bit. And if you don’t LOVE it after a few weeks, no big deal. Try something else.
4) Use Discernment: Be careful about who you share your new venture with. Well- meaning family and friends will not always support you. Some people who love you will: dampen your passion, project their fears onto you in the name of protection, criticize your efforts, etc.
My mentor, Denise Duffield Thomas taught me that being criticized is a rite of passage. So like Terry Crews says, get criticized!
What do you do if you friends and family think what you’re into is stupid or won’t work out? Tell someone else! Find LIKE-MINDED people who will support you.
5) Declutter like a mofo: Once you are head over heels in LOVE with your new thing, declutter the stuff in your life that holds you back from doing it. Sometimes after you get clear about what you want, the universe will declutter stuff for you!
For example, I’d been wanting to cut back on face painting or at least branch out into some other form of art for a few years. And the pandemic decluttered face painting for me…probably forever. So I learned how to draw caricatures. Adapt to your situation!
6) Dive In: After you complete the first 5 steps, dive in and EMBRACE your new identity. You don’t have to get rid of everything from your old life…but make sure you create space for the new.