Part 2: Advice for hard times

Part 2: Advice for hard times

A few weeks ago, I shared what I thought was my best advice…and so many people wrote back to me saying it was exactly what they needed to hear. So I’m back again with some advice for hard times.

Advice that others have shared with me and I am passing along.

By the way, I had originally shared the advice in my newsletter, but because so many people said they needed to hear it, I then posted it in my blog, which you are reading now.

Thanks for the vote of confidence, friends:

advice for hard times

Without further ado, here’s some of the best advice part 2, advice for hard times.

Don’t Just Feel Something, DO SOMETHING!

This quote is from Alexandra Franzen:
“When tragic, horrific things happen, feeling “sad” is not enough. Action is required. Fundraising is required. We can’t just feel something. We have to do something.”

 

Please read this powerful piece by Rachel Rodgers about what you can do to create a better world and help end racism.

 

“I Don’t Know What To Do With My Life”

Here’s my advice for that conundrum. Because purpose is soooo big and you are expanding and growing and changing every darn day, you don’t have to figure it all out now!

You don’t have to figure out your whole life today. Just figure out what you can do today.

Take it from a multi-passionate human (me, Sarah) who changes identities or personas more often than my idol David Bowie did!

David Bowie

Take it from Bowie: It’s all about CH-Ch-ch-changes

Give Yourself What YOU Need Most

What exactly does that mean? Well, too often we look for validation, praise, love, etc from other people. When you have to give it to YOURSELF first in order to receive it from others.

If you want more love, be your own darn soulmate! You have to nurture, cherish and take care of yourself FIRST in order for others to value you.

If you want to receive more compliments, compliment yourself! Appreciate yourself. Do mirror work!

advice for tough times

Ru Betta Work by Sarah Jordan

Here’s an example: Up until recently, I wanted Chad to take me seriously as a musician. But I had to take myself seriously FIRST!

Story time: In the past, Chad treated our band like a silly joke because most of our old songs were rap songs (😂 so me). But I always knew we could be so much more than that. Pre quarantine, I split my energy and focus a ton. But although I sang to my dog friends and to my chickens, I played video games way more than I played my ukulele because I was usually pretty tired from weekend face painting gigs, especially in the summer heat. Quarantine allowed/forced me to focus on one thing for the first time in my life. And it lit a fire in me!

Sometimes I practice for 5 hours at a stretch. I did vocal exercises everyday. I practiced harmonizing with David Bowie. I accepted that Chad was in another band at the time, so I made my own music. And if I never earn a dime from it, I don’t care…I have to sing and strum. And then Chad’s band broke up in march! And not because of quarantine! I did not immediately swoop in like Yoko Ono, although I was tempted 😉 Chad asked me to do some Facebook live concerts with him and we both realized the Loverfaces need to make musical magic together again. 💜 I take my fun seriously and I aim to inject as much visual delight into performing as possible (you can usually find me surrounded by bubbles and in full costume when I’m at an event, probably from my 10 years as a visual and performing artist in the corporate entertainment industry). But I had to take myself seriously as musician before Chad ever could.

advice for empaths

My first fan was a Chihuahua named Stella. PS. She was deaf.

Start a Kindness Swipe File

I learned this from Chantel Adams back in the day when I took her public speaking program. Basically, anytime someone compliments you online (and in person), take a screen shot and put in a folder on your desktop.

If you have a business, do this with all of your testimonials, praise, etc. When you need a boost or pick me up or are going through hard times, look at the kindness swipe file to lift your mood.

And by all means, SHARE those compliments around. You will notice I post people’s glowing comments about me throughout my blog and website, like this:

empaths heal

 

Whenever I’m feeling a moment of doubt, I take a look at my testimonials and praise and it helps me see that I’m making a difference whether I feel like it or not.

Be Conscious about What You CONSUME

Every day you are programming your brain and your mind. Choose what you read and watch carefully! If you are highly sensitive or an Empath, or going through your own stuff, it might be a good idea to turn off the news.

What I’m Watching

The Happy Film

Last night Chad and I watched The Happy Film on Amazon prime. The Happy Film was created by an incredible designer named Stefan Sagmeister.

What I loved is that Stefan did not try to put a bandaid over poo…he literally wanted to change! He is super vulnerable about his struggles and it is not a “rah rah” film but SUPER REAL And relatable.

Stefan tries three different modalities to make himself happier for 3 months each: meditation, drugs, and cognitive behavioral therapy. Even if you’re not into any of that, watch it just for the AMAZING visual stimulation alone. Warning: he is foreign and there is some nudity but it’s well worth it.

Here’s a scene from the movie:

the happy film

What I’m Reading, Listening to and Watching:

Before any of the shootings occurred, I was accidentally amplifying black voices by watching Joe Rogan interview Kevin Hart and sharing about it (sychronicity for the win) out of pure inspiration and admiration for Hart.

Kevin Hart broke his back 8 months ago and he is already walking around with less than 12% body fat. He went from being a hustle hustle go-go-go to someone who really values his family and his down time. Although I’m not going to get up like 5 a.m. like Hart, he is what motivated me to start lifting weights again. And I have to say I don’t wake up with back pain anymore.

Kevin Hart advice
In other good books, I’ve been reading How to find Your Yellow Tux by Jesse Cole (affiliate link). Cole is the creator of the Savannah Bananas baseball team. They are more like a circus than a baseball team and that’s why I wanted to read it. I learned about him from one of my sister’s old entrepreneur magazines.

Use Your Library

I am soooo thrilled to find out that I can get books from the library by placing them on hold online and then calling when I arrive. Then the staff leaves the books by the door for me to pick up. I got Chelsea Handler’s new book, Kevin Hart’s book and some natural healing book.

Read THIS BOOK:

The Book of Joy, (affiliate link) Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by The Dalai Lama. This helped me sooo much during quarantine.

Start a Gratitude Journal

Gratitude LITERALLY re-Wires your brain to be happier. SCIENCE BACKS THIS UP!
This is so damn important that I am creating my next online course about it! I’ve been gratitude journaling since 2014. My life has become soooo much happier and richer for it.

Advice from Ru Paul, Hunty

“People are going to talk about you anyway. You might as well do what you want to do!”

Ru Paul quotes

I hope these 9 tips (bits of advice for difficult times) helped you in some way.
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Three Original Songs by The Loverfaces

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Three Original Songs by The Loverfaces, Asheville Indie Music Duo

In The Garden by The Loverfaces

I (Sarah) wrote this song:

  • to write a song in the style of Chad and…
  • because I started gardening during quarantine…I felt like it was the one thing I felt like nobody could control, destroy or steal from me. Because prior to quarantine, I had a thriving pet sitting business and I miss my dog friends like crazy. Prior to quarantine, I had a thriving corporate entertainment business as an artist. Although I don’t miss that one as much ;), I wrote this song because nobody can take my garden away.

Fly with Me

Chad wrote Fly with Me (with help from me). We had spent the day at the playground jumping off swings. Then we watched The Neverending Story. And Fly with Me was born!
About Secret Ghost aka Beetlejuice

One day Chad walked into our room and I was standing there naked in the dark about to get dressed. Chad literally screamed! He later told me that he thought I was a ghost. We had recently watched Beetlejuice so I was inspired to write a song about it.

The Loverfaces are an Asheville indie music duo made up of married couple Sarah Jordan and Chad Jordan.  Get new songs by email, it’s free and FUN.

Cute Chicken Compilation with Music by Sarah Jordan

Cute Chicken Compilation with Music by Sarah Jordan

Everyone loves my pet chicken videos…enjoy this compilation.

About the Music

I’ve never had a formal vocal lesson (except for Chad correcting me and showing me harmonies)…but I feel like have to create it or I will literally die.

“When everything works best, it’s not because you chose writing (or music), it’s because it CHOSE YOU. It’s when you’re mad with it. It’s when it’s stuffed in your ears, nostrils, under your fingernails. It’s when there’s no hope but that.” Charles Bukowski

My take on this: Projectile Poetry by Sarah Jordan

When I play my ukulele,

my fingers ACHE to pluck and caress

the strings.

My ears are RAVENOUS

for succulent melodies and my throat

throbs with the weight of my words

that desperately need to escape

from the confining cages of my physical heart and lungs.

When the press the pencil to the page

my hand cannot keep up with

my brain’s wild words, lyrics or ideas.

When I’m with you,

I’m so incredibly fully with you

OTHERWISE WHY BOTHER!?

My ears drink

your words like nectar.

My eyes are liquid pools

reflecting you, your image, ALL OF YOU

back to you like molten moonlight

and I wouldn’t fudging dare to put

a screen between us (except to suspend time forever at the click of a camera button)

so that you can’t help but

fully feel my presence too.”- Sarah Jordan

Inspiration

Charles Bukowski (although dead) continues to inspire me because he sat on the floor writing on a damn napkin because it was what he LIVED for, and he would have died for it!!

“We work too hard. We try too hard,” Bukowski wrote to Packard.

“Don’t try. Don’t work. It’s there. Looking right at us, aching to kick out of the closed womb.”

What he might have meant by this: “if the thought of living without it (your THING) hurts more than the thought of potentially suffering through the process, if the thought of a life without it or never having tried it at all terrifies you, if it comes to you, through you, out of you, almost as if you’re not trying, then go all the fudging way.'”

That quote comes from Bukowski’s novel Factotum — the story of Bukowski in search of blue-collar work that won’t get in the way of his one true craft (writing).

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The Loverfaces Live FB Mini Concert Asheville

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The Loverfaces Live FB Mini Concert Asheville

We (The Loverfaces) performed a live mini concert on Facebook from our living room a few weeks ago…here’s the video below:

The Loverfaces are an Asheville indie music duo known for our unforgettable vocal harmonies and entertainment value. We love what we do and your guests will too!

Song Credits for the Above Video:

  • Myth by Beachhouse
  • You Don’t Know How it Feels by Tom Petty
  • Come Pick me Up by Ryan Adams
  • Pendulum by Chad Jordan

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In the Water by Joy Downer + Sarah Jordan on Ukulele

In the Water by Joy Downer Covered by Sarah Jordan on Ukulele

In the Water by Joy Downer was the first song I learned to play strictly by ear!

My husband Chad confirmed I played it correctly before I posted the video. We are an Asheville indie band called The Loverfaces.

In the Water is the Theme Song to Spinning Out on Netflix. The show is sooooo incredibly GOOD + ADDICTIVE and I wish there was a second season.

Here’s what people are saying about my In the Water Ukulele cover:

in the water spinning out theme song

I posted a video clip of me playing the song on my Instagram….and the lovely Joy Downer responded and made my day:

spinning out netflix soundtrack

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